"Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up."
- James A. Baldwin
In light of Glee Season 5's first episode titled "Love, Love, Love", I decided to name this chapter after it. That's right, ChaptersOfMarcus talks about his love life and all things about love.
What do you really want to know about my love life? How do I describe my love life? It's definitely a wreck and hectic mess. How many times have I been rejected by a girl? Plenty of times. But it doesn't mean that I was never in a relationship. I used to date this girl and I wasn't that into her as I thought I was. Turns out I made a huge mistake and emotionally hurt an innocent. I also nearly got into a relationship with another girl who I thought I was totally into her but I guess I got a tad too carried away with the way I felt that it scared the crap out of her. (Basically my love life is at its worst.)
Love can make or break a person. It's something that everyone needs, whether if it's the love from your parents, siblings, external family or even that someone special we're all looking for. Unfortunately I have to say that it didn't work out for me in terms of that someone special. Just like Miley Cyrus would say "I came in like a wrecking ball".
So here's some tips/advice from me to you guys out there from what I've learnt if you wanna make things right for you and that 'someone special' in your life. (You might want to take notes.) I'm no love expert or whatever, but this is just what I've learnt and noticed so far.
ChaptersOfMarcus's 6 Tips for Relationships
1. Treat her like a Lady
She's not a poodle, so you don't have to tell her that she's cute 24/7. Use the word "Beautiful" instead and use it with conviction. (if you really mean it) She's not your bitch either, she's an independent human being too. There are so many other guys out there who can treat her like a lady, if you can't then don't whine, cry and tweet about how she left you because you couldn't treat her like a lady in the first place.
2. Be nice, stop being a jerk (It's fine every once in awhile but not all the time)
I see guys teasing their girl all the time, if you do it too much they get pissed too (They have feelings). gender equality plays a role here, just because you're a guy doesn't mean you get to be the one teasing her all the time, let her have a shot at it every once in awhile to make it even.
3. Be sure about the way you feel about her (cause you don't want to end up making the wrong choices one day)
If you can get yourself to say the three words to her face-to-face while looking her in the eyes, you pretty much know how you truly feel about her but if you can't or if you even have to take a minute to consider then I guess she isn't the one, you might want to look again. Just because you think about that person every single day, doesn't mean she's the one, it could be a crush or even an infatuation, it's very easy to mix that up with love, trust me.
4. Don't get too carried away, take it slow, (it's not a race or competition)
For those of you new couples or starting out in your relationship, guys, never be in a hurry to speed up your relationship cause there's no point how far you go if she feels uncomfortable. Understand that love is something that needs to grow even stronger with every step, it's like playing maple where you require "experience" to "level up", so with every small gesture, you gain a sum of "experience" and over time these "experiences" will help you to "level up" in your relationship. So never be in a hurry to try to get your relationship into one of those big hollywood chick flicks where the male and female lead just seem to fall in love instantly and they do all the crazy romantic stuff together cause in reality, it seldom happens unless you're looking for a one night stand.
5. Be Honest
It's one of the basic principles, what can I say? Honesty is the best Policy. You can never go wrong with Honesty. If you make a promise, keep to it, if you broke it, confess and ask for forgiveness. If you cheated, realise your mistake and confess. One of the hardest things about a relationship is trying to be honest with each other, because of the fact that we have so many flaws and principles we grew up with, it makes it hard to be honest because you don't know what will the other person be thinking about you. It's totally cool when you say that you don't care about what people think about you but you cannot deny that you feel something when it's someone you love. If you can't be honest with your girl from the start, it's probably not gonna work out in the long run buddy.
6. Life is never fair, neither is Love
If love was fair, then everyone would most probably have someone special with them right now. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean that person has to love you back equally, I'm sure we all have friends who put in too much effort in their relationship while the other one doesn't or where both parties blame each other for the break up although it was just one person's fault. Love just isn't fair and you need to realise that, you're gonna get hurt a dozen times in love. And you'll come to realise how silly you were before when you were in love.
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Sorry if you think I sound like a pessimist in love, I'm actually a huge fan of love but I guess I just needed to write this post to let everyone out there know that love isn't as simple as you think it is, it's more complicated, way way more complicated.
For those of you who are already in a steady relationship, good for you and I dedicate this lovely song to you happy lovebirds. The acoustic version of this song would be my wedding song, the lyrics is just so meaningful and lovely.
"Love suffers long and is kind, it is not proud, love bares all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. Love never fails and now these three remain; Faith, Hope and Love, but the greatest of these is Love."
Till my next chapter.
Till my next chapter.
